They’ve Seen the Bait a Thousand Times

I have decided to follow up on my interaction with the Kenyan lady I met on a dating site.

I figured out that she was upset because I hate the prosperity gospel. I call people like Kenneth Copeland and Creflo Dollar liars and slavemasters. She sent an email suggesting I watch Copeland. He is an idiot, and I know it because I used to watch him 20 years ago. I fell for his lies because I wasn’t receiving guidance from the Holy Spirit.

Jesus said a man who called his brother a fool was in danger of hell’s fire. People have reminded me of that when I criticized Mammon preachers. Here’s the thing: Kenneth Copeland is not my brother. The word says as many as are led by the Spirit are sons of God. Copeland teaches garbage that ruins people’s lives. He’s not led by the Holy Spirit. If we don’t have the same father, he’s not my brother. He is an idiot. Jesus called people idiots.

This morning I sent her a long email giving my testimony with regard to prosperity preachers. I explained that I was very familiar with them and that I had learned they were wrong. I told her how I had been blessed in every way while cursing their ministries, praying God would destroy their organizations, and criticizing them in public. I told her I believed God rewarded me financially for this.

It’s all in the previous blog post.

I finally heard back from her. She sent three long emails.

In the first one, she said she had just finished her second 21-day round of prayer and fasting three days before encountering me online. She said Jesus had told her that this year, the enemy would try to rob people of their blessings by causing strife in the church.

I don’t want to get into boring detail, but I will say that she thinks Jesus told her to circle the wagons. Hear no evil, see no evil, speak no evil. Don’t criticize ministers, because it drives people away from the church. I shouldn’t have to repeat it all, because the spirit behind it is obvious. “Don’t rock the boat. Play along.”

It reminds me of something I heard a few years ago when I was still a member of a church led by the convicted pedophile Alberto Santiago. He was preaching, and in my mind, I heard, “Stay on the treadmill,” over and over.

What is a treadmill? It’s a machine on which you walk a great deal without making any progress. Santiago had a god complex, and he was trying to make his church a cult. He and his masculine wife were doing a lot of things wrong, and they were damaging people’s lives and killing their own church. He kept people from going nowhere, and he wanted to manipulate them so they didn’t leave.

He wanted us to stay on the treadmill.

The Kenyan lady is on the treadmill, and she is inviting me to get back on. It’s like the scene in What’s Love Got to do With it? in which Ike Turner shows up with flowers and tries to get Tina to get back in his car so she can go back to work for him. Ike Turner learned everything he knew from Satan.

She’s also calling me an agent of Satan, whether she knows it or not. Why would she want to marry an agent of Satan? I chalk that down to her two X chromosomes. Women are better at cognitive dissonance. That’s why they vote for socialists.

There are a ton of things wrong with what she told me.

First of all, she says she believes a wife should be submissive. That means she shares the Christian belief that a man is the high priest of his house. God leads proper families through Christian husbands who hear from the Holy Spirit. Wives are supposed to listen to them. How can you say you’re submissive when you begin a relationship by giving an older, more experienced man lessons in basic doctrine?

Here is what I would ask: what does “submissive” mean to you? Does it mean you submit to a man only when he agrees with you? That isn’t submission at all. That’s matriarchy. Ewww. I prefer death.

She also gave me a bunch of scriptures intended to prove I don’t have the authority to question a man of God. If I don’t have that authority, how can I have the authority to rule our house? Paul contradicted Peter publicly. Jesus contradicted priests and scribes, as well as his disciples. The prophets did nothing but contradict other so-called prophets who were wrong. I have authority, too. I’m allowed to contradict people who are out of line, even if they have TV cameras pointed at them.

She says Kenneth Copeland has financed more than 40% of “the modern day revival around the world.” That’s not a good thing. It means he has used money he took by lying to people, and he has used it to build toxic churches that prevent other people from becoming children of God.

She still wants to make things work. Why? If I’m so ignorant and full of iniquity I need a woman to correct me, how could I ever be a worthwhile husband.

Many women believe it’s their job to create their husbands. No. Totally wrong. It’s a husband’s job to shape a wife.

She’s a very nice lady. She’s very sincere. She wants to fight evil. But she’s saying things that go against the way the kingdom works.

I told her I didn’t believe in argument. I said she should stick to her guns. I said if she thought I wasn’t right for her, she shouldn’t have me. I also said this: if I were a woman, and I thought my husband were wrong, I would try to go along with him while praying for God to correct him. I suggested she pray for God to correct me. I said I already prayed for it every day, and I said I would agree with her.

I said men were required to lead, and I said I could not be in a relationship in which a woman tried to teach me as though I had only received salvation last week. I said a man who isn’t allowed to lead would be an Ahab to her. I said he would be a disgrace to her and himself.

To sum up, we have doctrinal differences, she doesn’t really believe in submission (although she thinks she does), and she is trying to preserve an opportunity which, by her own standards, has no future.

Some people say women are unpredictable, but that’s not entirely true. Everything that’s going on between this woman and me is predictable. It’s cliche. Women want to run marriages. Women fall in love way too fast. Women will do way too much to make a go of relationships that are clearly built on rotten foundations.

I could help her by telling her these things, but a woman who wants to run a relationship can’t be taught.

Imagine me, married to this lady in her current state of mind. Either we would be at odds all the time, or I would have to pretend I believed what she says. Of course, neither option can happen.

Can she change? God knows, but I don’t. Women are supposed to marry up and let men change them, but not every woman is willing, and many men aren’t up to the job anyway. I can do it, but I can’t work with hardened clay.

I think I’ll hear from her a few more times. This is my prediction, based on what I know about women. She’s thinking I was sent by God, she think’s I’m a rare find, she really wants me, and her emotions are telling her to make it work. She’s not paying attention to the fact that I’m not part of her religion. She is probably somewhat angry at me for not being what she wants. Women are famous for that. She should be asking herself why God would send her a man she has to repair. God wouldn’t do that. He would send her a leader.

Wives are not supposed to shape husbands.

It’s unpleasant to see someone I like and respect so much, missing the mark so completely. I think it’s bait, to see if I’ll cave in and be like Samson or Adam. There must be a reward waiting for me now that I’ve turned the bait down. The punishment for taking the bait is obvious.

It’s all very interesting. It would be better to have a wife than all this engaging mental exercise, but being smart is fun, and thinking is fun. Using knowledge my father in heaven gave me is fun. Knowing you came to the right conclusions and passed a test is fun. I’ll take what I can get.

This is me not being beta.