Signs and Opportunities

March 14th, 2010

The Spirit Moves Me

I had a good day at church, although looking at it superficially, it would not seem so.

Last night I forgot about the time change (or rather, I didn’t know the date in the first place, because I don’t watch TV). I went to bed at the usual hour, thinking everything was swell. Then a neighbor’s unbelievably loud party woke me up at what I thought was 11:00 p.m. I was not too happy about it, but I try not to make trouble for my neighbors if I can avoid it (Psalm 15), so I did not call the cops. Besides; this party had a loud emcee who was yelling in Spanish between salsa numbers, and from the sound of it, the party was quite a distance away. That usually means a fundraiser with a permit. Unbelievably, Coral Gables–the city which will prosecute you for painting your interior walls without permission–will allow you to keep your neighbors up until three a.m. if you get a permit.

While I was lying there awake, I remembered that the time change was in the news, and I checked to see if it was upon me. It was. That was fabulous. I had thought I was being kept awake until 1:00, on the night before rising at 6:00 to make pizza at church. In reality, I was being kept awake until 2:00.

Drove to church and got things moving. Things get more and more efficient; these days I try to make big batches of everything. I started by making about a gallon of yeast mixture, and as soon as I could, I began making dough with the woefully inadequate and messy Kitchenaid mixer.

I managed to get ten batches of dough done, and then I started making pizza, and things went great, except that very few people bought any. Apparently, I was not the only one who forgot the time change.

Things looked better after the second service, but then I realized the pizza wasn’t getting cooked. We had the same problem on Tuesday. The burner in the big convection oven refuses to turn on after a while, so it gets cooler and cooler, until you’re warming raw pizza instead of baking it.

We had a guy look at it this week, but evidently, he did not look at it hard enough. I managed to make a few pizzas in the smaller oven, but eventually, I gave up, and I had to throw out a gallon of sauce and four portions of dough. Orders were cancelled. Depressing.

He’s going to look at it again.

I wandered around looking for things to do, and down the hall, through a glass door, I saw what appeared to be part of an EMT truck, with a flashing light. I got to the end of the hall, and there were three EMTs working on a girl on a table. One of my fellow armorbearers was there. I helped with crowd control. Church was emptying, and half of the crowd had to leave through those doors.

The girl was about 15 and thin. I could see her bare feet at the end of the table, beside the paramedics. Her feet were shaking, as though she were jerking or seizing. Someone had found her unconscious in a bathroom. She was conscious when I saw her, but only barely. They were trying to get her to answer questions.

Prime opportunity to pray. I always pray when I see an ambulance. It’s a rule I have. If I tried to break it, I think I’d be unable to sleep later. Usually, I don’t know who I’m praying for. But here was this kid, on the table. Three feet away. Lucky for her the oven pooped out. Lucky, or something better than lucky.

While I was herding and praying, I saw a homeless guy I talk to on occasion. I say “homeless” because that was what I had suspected. I hadn’t really known. He’s a thin guy who often shows up wearing fatigues. He has a lady friend who sometimes appears with him.

The first time I met him, he was standing in the parking lot, trying to get people’s attention. I pulled over and rolled down the window, and we talked for a minute, and I gave him some assistance. You can’t turn someone down while you’re driving out of the parking lot after church. He appeared to be what is known as a street person. That gave me something to pray about on the way home.

I thought maybe he was someone who showed up at church on rare occasions to ask for favors, but he turned up again not long after that, in a TV audience at the TBN studio. My pastor was hosting Praise the Lord, so I decided to drive to Hollywood and check it out, and there the guy was. So he does go to church when he’s not after anything.

A few nights back, I saw him again, standing in front of the Wal-Mart across the street from the church. I was there to get olive oil and other pizza supplies. He did not look good. I wondered if he was on something. I did not speak to him on the way in, and he didn’t see me. I felt like I should have talked to him, so I decided to look for him on the way out.

He was still there. He looked almost ill. I don’t know what the problem was. I can’t judge. It could be a legitimate medical thing. I asked how he was, and he said something like, “not too good.” He said he was waiting for friends to give him a ride home. He asked which was I was going. I thought I should turn that around for my own sake, so I asked where he needed to go. He said he needed to go to Opa-Locka, which was out of my way. I said I was going south. I did not want to be in Opa-Locka after dark with a guy with this kind of troubles. I didn’t drive him, but I gave him a little help getting home.

Today I saw him leaving the church while we helped the EMTs, and I felt like I should say something, but he and his girlfriend drifted out with the crowd. I thought that was the end of it. I was glad to see him in church, after the way he had looked in front of Wal-Mart.

I went with a pastor and an armorbearer friend while they carried off the linens the girl had lain on; she had been vomiting. We all washed our hands, and I asked my friend if we were having any post-church meetings, and he inquired via radio while I waited. This all took a while. There was no meeting.

I left the building and turned toward my car, and walking toward me, five feet away, were the guy and his girlfriend. Like someone had dropped them there from a hidden chute. Okay, this time we were going to acknowledge each other. We shook hands. Danged if he didn’t need a ride again.

I had turned him town twice in the past, so I figured this was my day. The three of us got in my truck, and off we went to Opa-Locka.

They were thrilled that someone was giving them a lift. It was as if I had bought them the truck. What was I going to do? Drive off in comfort while these people roasted in the parking lot? His girlfriend was so grateful, she gave me a CD. She’s a Christian rapper. I did not see that coming. I thought it was very nice of her to give it to me, in view of their financial outlook, and I said I would listen to it.

We got to know each other a little. When they learned I was a writer, he said he was interested in doing a Christian book. I said it was a great idea, if he had a good testimony. He said he had one. He said he had been hit by a train and nearly blinded in one eye. He didn’t get around to the Christian part, but I admit, I’m always impressed when an able-bodied person tells me he has been hit by a train.

I asked how they found Trinity. His girlfriend said she had seen the church’s big white emblem over and over, on the side of the building, and that she had wanted to check the place out, so she decided they would go. He said they couldn’t always get a ride, and that on one occasion, they had walked.

That was sobering. I would guess they live six miles from the church.

I asked if they belonged to GAP (God Answers Prayer) groups. They did not. I told them it would make them feel more at home in church, and that it would help them get more out of it. He asked when my group met. I told him it met at 8 a.m. on Saturdays. He said that was right up his alley. So now I had that to think about.

She said she was good at teaching kids to sing. I said they probably needed people to do that at Trinity.

I told them about the bus ministry a friend of mine runs. He picks people up in a van and brings them to church. I said I didn’t know if it ran in his area, but that I could find out. I don’t think it does, but I haven’t worked with the bus ministry for a while. I could be wrong. They wrote their names and number on a scrap of paper, and I kept it. He said I should let him know if I knew of any little jobs he could do. Nothing strenuous, because of his condition. I nodded. I don’t really know a lot of people who need odd jobs done, but you never know.

I let them out in front of their house and went on my way.

The first time I met this guy, I was celebrating a victory in my life. That was one reason I had gone to the TBN taping. I wanted to get out of the house and go do something unusual and related to God, and the taping presented itself to me, so I went.

Does it mean anything that he’s suddenly back? Is it a reminder that another personal victory is in the making? It has to have significance. It’s just too weird, otherwise.

I don’t know what to do. I am not an outgoing person, and that is the main reason I don’t do much hands-on charity. When you deal with people who need help, bits of them tend to stick to you. It’s not a clean business. On the other hand, I think the lost are a huge concern to God, and very few people are willing to give them the time of day. Some people sink to the bottom of life, like leaves in a teacup, and they tend to stay there, and we were sent to pull them back up. Only Christians have the means to do it. I have been very conscious of this lately. I think it probably means a lot to people like this, just to be treated with common courtesy and respect.

I am not writing about this to portray myself as a saint. I’ve done almost nothing for these people, and I am not planning to give the man a kidney any time soon. I’m just writing this to document the strange events that took place today, and my impressions of them.

Things are going to get better. God has a good future planned for me.

4 Responses to “Signs and Opportunities”

  1. Gerry N Says:

    Watch out when you help people. Sometimes it works out. I post on several internet boards Two and a half years ago in early November, one of the guys on one of those boards asked me if I knew any sheltered place nearby where he’d be safe sleeping. He has a small, ratty looking dog and people don’t like homeless folks with dogs. They have been beaten up and chased away on several occasions before.

    I thought and prayed about it for two days before my wife and I decided since the coming weeks were forecast to be rainy and cold, and we’d feel pretty low and mean if we left them out in it, we’d let the two of them use our travel trailer for a while. It has heat, lights, hot water, and best of all, a bathroom with a shower. I emailed Aaron my cell #. He called a few hours later to arrange a meeting location. I picked him and his dog up and brought them to my house, giving him a key to the trailer. I showed him how things worked and told him there was at least a month’s worth of food in the cupboards, but nothing fresh. There was plenty of dog food and treats, and please don’t smoke in the trailer. I pointed out the supermarket a block and a half away. Aaron and his dog stayed a little over a week and a half. Each morning he took the bus into Seattle where he sold the “Stranger”, a homeless broadside with a Communist tilt. One morning I went to check on him, and Aaron had gone. The trailer was clean, all the things he’d used were replenished, and he left a five dollar bill with a thank you note on the table. He had to work far too long and hard for that $5 for me to spend it, so I still have it in an envelope in a drawer in the trailer.

    I’ve heard from him once since, a letter nearly a year later. It has a central Oregon postmark. He has managed to get his teeth fixed, found a regular job, and was living in a rented room not far from his mother’s house. They hadn’t spoken for thirty or more years. He wrote that allowing him to stay in my little travel trailer gave him a safe place to be, something he hadn’t had for twenty five years, making him realize how badly he missed it, especially for Grunt, his dog. He also saw his Socialist beliefs were dead wrong, here I was, a raging Right Winger and Capitalist actually helping him for no apparent reason and asking only that he leave the trailer clean in return. He has begun taking responsibility for the hardships he thought life had been handing him. He’s now 45, developing a relationship with his family, working, (He didn’t say doing what.) and going to church with his mom once in a while, he has a car now. He credits it to me. I credit it to God, (I asked him what to do.) My wife was not really “into” it, but trusted me because I trusted God. We also kept our doors locked at night and a loaded six shooter handy. I’m pretty sure God put that into my head, too.

    When we got the trailer, I had some friends help me wire a 50 Amp RV outlet on the side of the house and put in an RV Sanitary connection to the sewer. I had no practical reason to do that whatever. I’m pretty sure God put that idea into my head as well. It cost less than thirty dollars and a few hours of not very hard work. It sure makes it easy and convenient for me to allow someone to stay there from time to time, though.

    Gerry N.

  2. Virgil Says:

    Good job…Brother Steve

  3. Ed Bonderenka Says:

    Gerry N : “When you do these things…” Thanks for the blessing of reading that.
    Steve: I read a number of your recent posts to my wife last night and she was blessed. thanks.
    .
    I’ve done a lot for a number of people. Offering to repair houses and cars for fellow church members introduced me to my wife. Some people abuse it.
    One guy did, repeatedly. After awhile, it became apparent he was a mooch who used his “christianity” to get others to bail him out. One night his car overheated and he called me. I took 20 empty milk jugs (that’s when I knew why I was collecting them) and filled them with water and took them to where his car was. I told him to stop at every ditch and refill. His wife started laughing and said something about him being found out finally.
    He abandoned his family a year later.

  4. Freddie Says:

    Gerry, Ed:

    Thank you for sharing those stories.

    Today they mean more than you know.